In college, there are numerous classes and clubs students can join to be prepared for the professional work environment. There are classes you can take on how to ace an interview, how to mingle at cocktail parties and even how to eat at a dinner professionally. As important as these classes are, they actually place an enormous amount of pressure on young professionals. Sometimes, we may feel that we have to perfectly fit into societal molds in order to be successful. While it is important to learn about these skills, we have to remember not to lose our sense of selves. 

At these professional development events, one thing I have noticed myself trying to get rid of is my sense of humor. I sometimes think that I am too goofy and awkward for my own good. However, I know I need to be able to embrace what I have. My playfulness is not a problem; it’s an asset. 

I tend to use humor as a coping mechanism when I get into awkward situations, but the good part is that it usually works. Did I cry eight times today? Probably. However, am I going to make sure I keep it together during this presentation? Absolutely. The only way I can maintain my professional demeanor is by letting my jokes flow freely, to a certain point, of course. This usually helps keep the class or group interested while also making me more comfortable.

I never thought I would have an outlet for my humor, other than in class presentations because I thought it would be looked down upon, to my surprise, I was able to find an outlet where it was important to be professional, but also encouraged to have jokes. For speech and debate, I give humorous speeches almost every weekend. These actually help me practice finding the right amount of humor to add to a professional speech. My ability to laugh off my mistakes decreases their importance to me and to the audience.

With these jokes, I have been able to find my confidence in public presentations. I may still get stage fright, but I am no longer controlled by it. I know that if I am fully myself, my confidence on stage or in front of people will flourish. As I’ve taken to telling myself, it is the patience with yourself that brings you success. 

We cannot let these parts of ourselves go. These assets are what give us our true professional identity. They are what separate us from the rest. Our ability to apply our idiosyncrasies to a career is what brings us forth and inspires us to continue on. Just because they are not taught in classes does not mean these techniques are not valid. 

I have tried to stop looking at my goofiness as an annoyance and begun to see it as a part of my personality. It is my charisma. It is what gives me the confidence to speak in crowds, keep a strong persona and generally be the strong leader I know I can be. We have to accept ourselves for who we are. Because if we can’t accept ourselves, how can others?